“You Know I Don’t Mean You”

smurf018This week I spent some quality time with Dear Darkness: Poems by the incredible poet, Kevin Young. He draws on his Louisiana roots in this new collection, mourning the loss of family and faith with the characteristic voice of a bluesman. Poems such as “Another Autumn Elegy” are particularly moving, while other verses use images of food in funny and surprisingly reflective ways. Take the “Prayer for Black-Eyes Peas”: “harbor me & I pledge each / inch of my waist not to waste / you, to clean my plate / each January & like you / not look back.”

But I was especially excited to discover that Dear Darkness reprints what is, without a doubt, one of my favorite poems about the adolescent negotiations of race:

“No Offense”

If you wonder why
I’m not laughing, go ask
Brian, the sixth-grade cutup
the one with the most dirty jokes
who requested the tribal African song
Tina Singu each music class, black
vinyl spinning while Brian made
faces, knocked his knees together
like eggs. If you are curious about
me, just ask the boy who riddled
the whole playground or me
& my friends walking
home: What do you get
when you cross a black person

with a Smurf? I am sure today
he would answer you, would explain
now that he meant No offense just
like he did then above the crowd
of girls leaning close or the boys
trying to get his timing down,
just as after the punchline
he always said You know I don’t
mean you
. It’s OK. And when
you see that boy whose last name
I don’t seem to remember, be sure
to tell him that this here Smigger

could care less yet could never care
more, that my blue
& brown body is more
than willing to inform
him offense is one hostage
I have never taken.

– from Dear Darkness: Poems by Kevin Young

When I first read “No Offense,” I thought about Nikki Giovanni, who wrote in 1968 that “childhood remembrances are always a drag / if you’re Black.” Perhaps Kevin Young’s poem is the “Nikki-Rosa” of our modern and supposedly more-progressive generation, one meant to reap the benefits of desegregation and civil rights struggles. (At least, that’s what Rudy, Vanessa, and Theo Huxtable would have us believe.)

So what I find most striking about “No Offense” is the unmistakable rage – and sadness? – that lingers beneath its playground pranks and pop culture references. Young skillfully creates that familiar moment when so many black youths are first confronted with the racial implications of privilege and difference in this country. His ironic tone becomes more and more combative as the poem moves us from a sixth-grade music class to an implied hostage crisis. And then there is this odd, politically incorrect Smurf joke, told through the shared language of 1980s Saturday morning cartoons, with its hidden punchline (“Smigger”) and the kind of double meaning (“blue / & brown body) that would make Louis Armstrong proud.

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Kevin Young

I’ve encountered more than a few kids like Brian, the jokes heard and overheard on the playground, and the humiliating non-apology: you know I don’t mean you. Kevin Young is only a few years older than me, which is probably why the sting of that single, perfect phrase – “It’s OK” -  feels so uncanny. But reading “No Offense” doesn’t make me feel depressed or angry. For me, there’s something thrilling about seeing a shared experience, even a painful one, so precisely re-imagined. Like comparing scars and war stories with an old Army buddy you’ve never met.

I’d love to hear other thoughts on Young’s poem. Does it strike a chord with you, too? Or do you have a different view?

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7 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Frieda on January 1, 2009 at 9:20 PM

    Claudia,

    This poem brought up so many childhood memories. I can understand Kevin’s poem so well. For example, I can recall standing in the lunch line in second grade (Yes, SECOND GRADE) and a classmate sang to me:

    “Jingle Bells, shocking shells, granny had a gun…pulled the trigger shot the N****r…….”

    I can’t tell you what came after that line because it was always a blur from there. And of course, I too, heard the line “No offense.”

    That was the first experience that I could recall with race, but there were many more uncomfortable experiences like this. Like for example, “You don’t seem like all of the other black people.” At the time I can recall wondering what all of the other black people were like, but felt sort of grateful to not be included in the pool of “outcasts.” I can recall being asked “why my hair felt THAT way” and whether or not touching my arm would turn my white classmate, black. So many memories, yet no strategies to deal or handle it all at such an early age. Isolation and alienation in my predominately white elementary and middle school were the NORM.

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  2. Definitely strikes a chord. I think the attitude that “I don’t mean you” continues in the modern workplace too. Have you ever been “complimented” by whites who say “I don’t think of you as black”?! And it’s hard to write about in a way that makes the full impact felt. Poetry is probably the best way to do this. I heard a review of this book on NPR. I need to check it out.

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  3. Posted by Harriet on January 6, 2009 at 5:06 PM

    Wow…”this here Smigger

    could care less yet could never care
    more, that my blue
    & brown body is more
    than willing to inform
    him offense is one hostage
    I have never taken.”

    That’s absolutely profound. I got in my fair share of scuffles when I was younger over childish issues like this. I agree with Carleen and Frieda.

    It’s such a shame. I had to do a research project when I was still in college about how others view black and white. We had to make random calls and ask the person on the other end a series of questions. Then, at the end of the conversation, I had to ask the person on the other end if they thought I was black, white or other. Overwhelmingly, (98%) many thought I was white, citing how “well spoken” I was over the phone. As if diction and proper grammar is relegated to race.

    Anyway, I digress. GREAT article!

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  4. Great poem. Isn’t it great how “no offense” is almost assuredly followed by something offensive?

    I love Kevin Young. I taught him for the first time last semester and now can’t get enough of him.

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  5. Posted by Lu on January 12, 2009 at 4:20 PM

    Just saw this over at ARP, and I enjoyed it very much. I has never read the poem but I am sure I will be sharing it with my boys as they get older and undoubtedly face the same “no offense” jokes at school.

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